Fridays Are For One Question

I read an excellent post from Dan Darling this week called “10 Things Nobody Ever Told You About Being a Dad.” His list is below:

1) You are much less patient than you think you are.

2) Many times you’ll have no clue what to do.

3) You’ll realize that minivans are secretly awesome.

4) You’ll probably not get six continuous hours of good sleep ever again.

5) There are singular moments of joy so indescribable they can only be experienced.

6) Your presence is more important than you know.

7) You need to repeat the same words over and over to your children.

8). You will watch less of your favorite games, play less video games, and will go out with your guy friends hardly at all.

9) You will embrace your cluelessness as a gift from God.

10) You will realize your ongoing need to repent, confess, apologize, and forgive.

Read the rest for his explanations.

But let’s not stop there. For today’s question, I wonder what you would add to the list. And let’s expand it to include both moms as well as dads:

“What’s one thing nobody ever told you about being a parent?”

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  • Wendy says:

    No one ever told me that I would realize how much pain my mother & father must have felt when I disrespected and lied to them. (And my teenager doesn’t do that nearly as often as I did.)

  • Tiffany says:

    Along the same lines as Wendy’s comment – your respect for your own parents grows tremendously.

  • Lance says:

    I never realized how much my first question in so many different situations would be: “How would Dad handle this?”

  • Renee Teate says:

    To continue along the lines of having a teenager:
    That I cannot control what she thinks, feels, does, where she goes, who she hangs out with. I might can make there be consequences for her choices, but I can’t control them.

    And how much my own rebellion breaks the heart of God. I have a small inkling of how much my sin grieves the Holy Spirit.

  • 11. Phrases like “that’s a danger boom owie” will become part of your everyday vocabulary.

    12. You will sometimes find yourself, glazed over and watching the Sprout channel even if your kids are asleep (hours later: “How did this happen?”)

    13. You’ll see your own weaknesses and flaws in your children and have to correct them, even though you know you’re not even close to “corrected” yet.

    14. The fact that God is your dad becomes tangible for the first time. And, the fact that His love for you is infinitely greater than your love for your child is more than just words on a page. It all becomes reality.

  • Julie says:

    Well for one, “poop” becomes an integral part of your everyday life…for a long, long time.

    And, on a more serious note, I wish I had understood the role the gospel plays in my everyday parenting. The gospel produces hearts that love rather than behavior that is acceptable. I know I spent too much time correcting behavior and at times forgot about the hearts of my children and whether or not they were turned toward the Lord.

  • Jeff says:

    Great question, Michael. Adding to Scarlet’s list:

    15. You will actually get used to the smell of vomit.

    16. You will find yourself doing more of each of the following: dancing, jumping, pretending, singing silly songs, kissing little cheeks, and yelling one-word-says-it-all phrases like “Seriously???”

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